If you have ever looking into someone's eyes when they have learned something new, you will see a sparkle that makes them stand out from the rest of the crowd. Seriously speaking, you do not have to be the smartest person in the room, but being a person that wants to continue to learn new things will make you the most attractive in the room.
1) Learning new things increase your chances!
I have a relative, Eve, who was a person that liked to read a lot, so she did not always get out to meet new people that she could date. But she did notice that she sometimes had good ideas for stories and novels that she read, so she decided to make something of her reading experience.
She headed out for a novel writing class at the local community college.
Once there, she found that she was a natural at developing story lines and characters, winning the praise of classmates and her instructor.
The instructor recommended that she return to school to get her Master's degree in literature or writing and turn her new-found talent into a career. Eve was surprised at this turn in her life, but was enjoying it so much that she did not even hesitate.
When she stood in line at the registrar's office, she noticed a guy about her age that looked vaguely familiar. It turned out that he was in her writing class with her.
He told her that he was really impressed with how passionate she was about writing and going back to school to further develop this passion. And then he asked her out on a date.
Learning something new causes others that are interested in new things to be attracted to you - without your having to do a thing besides doing what you love.
2) Learn to recognize what goes through your mind and thoughts!
When you want to attract good things into your life, even beautiful and handsome dates, you need to think thoughts that are related to the people you want to attract.
With all of the thoughts that run through our heads, it is no wonder that we cannot seem to control them all. But maybe that is not the point. Maybe you just need to recognize what you are thinking in order to change the negative thoughts into positive ones.
For example, when you want to attract someone who is kind, you need to think kind thoughts. When you want to attract someone that is funny, you need to project a funny personality. Like two magnets, you will attract the people that think the way you do, if you simply change the way you are thinking.
I know a friend, Bob, who was not the kind of guy that was into self-development.
He thought that if a woman was not interested in him, it was her loss and he should not even sorry about it. But as he realized that no one ever seemed to be interested in him, he started to feel like maybe something WAS wrong with him.
For a few days, he decided to write down every thought that he had about the people around him. And though he planned to do this for a few days, he could only maintain it for twenty-four hours because of how much he was writing down.
Literally, there were pages and pages of disparaging thoughts about the people that he came into contact with everyday.
Bob realized that maybe he was not as much of a catch as he had led himself to believe. He realized that if he was just thinking these things, he might be showing them in the way that he moved or the way that he looked at people - and that probably was not increasing his chances of marrying a nice woman.
To help him change the way that he thought, Bob wore a rubber band on his wrist and started to snap it onto his skin whenever he began to think anything negative.
After a few days of a red wrist, he started to realize when he would think negative thoughts and then he would change them into more positive statements. He still thought some negative things, but the exercise helped him to slowly cut back and correct himself when he was being a bit too negative.
As he did this, his face lightened and his body language changed. People were not afraid of what Bob was thinking of him and started to talk to him more and ask what he thought about things. By simply looking at what he was thinking, Bob became a person that people were attracted to.
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